Another Friday, another Powerful Beauty! Susan Murphy is a graduate psychologist, counselor and adviser. Her training allows for a unique perspective on how she defines Powerful Beauty. Susan works to help individuals find self-esteem and confidence in themselves through cognitive therapy and positive affirmation.
It sounds like Susan is certainly a Powerful Beauty!
What does it mean to be beautiful? If you are under forty, it probably equates with ‘sexually attractive’. It might mean that you keep up with the latest trend, or feel very good about yourself because you can get into those pants and you have a new haircut. It takes a few years before a woman learns to understand that beauty means much more than those things.
Eventually, we learn that beauty is not something we add to alter our outer appearance; it is drawn from within, and is expressed through our character, our actions, our way of being. This is Powerful Beauty.
I knew a lady in her late eighties, who never wore makeup, never even noticed what was in style, and she was one of the most beautiful people I have ever met. Her face glowed, she always had a sweet smile and a very kind word, her outlook was always optimistic, even throughout what other people would call hardship. Her secret? Her focus was totally on others, and how she could show them love. You might scoff and say that ladies that age seldom do concern themselves with trends and makeup. Well, I give you that. However, this woman was always that way: an amazing, unforgettable person.
Would you honestly say upon seeing her for the first time that Whoopi is beautiful? But she is!
Compare Queen Latifah, Meryl Streep and Julia Roberts. None of them look alike, none of them fit the standard image of ‘beautiful’. Yet I find each one to be beautiful in her own way. We can all be beautiful in our own way.
Look at yourself in the mirror, not as the person you see every morning, but as a new person whom you have never met. Now just let all your facial muscles go slack. Like what you see? Now look away and run the tape in your head that says: you should lose some weight; your feet are too big, you could have been a success if only you had ___________ [fill in the blank yourself]. Keep the tape running for a minute or two, then glance back into that mirror.
Next, look away again. Close your eyes, inhale deeply, and as you slowly exhale, let all the negativity inside you go away as you breathe out. Inhale once more, deeply, letting your shoulders lift as you do. Feel yourself being filled with fresh energy, peace and contentment. Again, exhale, releasing tension and worry as you do so. Breathe this way twice more, allowing your neck and shoulders to relax when you exhale. Now, look back into the mirror and see who you could be showing to the world. Is there a difference? Of course there is.
This person has a little smile, and fewer lines. She looks interested in you and the world. She looks friendly, capable, and powerful!
So ladies, what do you think of Susan’s words? Did you do the exercise she outlines?
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